Nice/Shy Guy = No Game? Do nice guys finish last?

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I am not a nice guy. The type that finish last sha. *Cue whatever music plays when someone has an epiphany* I did not come to this conclusion by chance, Call it the realization of a person who mistook a patent lack of game for niceness and thought being nice was the reason his affections weren’t requited as often as he gave them. You see I lacked and for all intents of purposes I still lack game, I am a brother with no game. I was voted most likely to get friend zoned in high school. I glory in self deprecation, forgive me.

You see I believe there is this notion that being nice means being a pushover. In the case of relationships and being a nice guy, it means hanging around a lady you clearly have feelings for and not letting her know you have feelings for her (Idiot, clearly she is not a telepath!). It consists of waiting until it is too late to make it known. It consists of not making a move that one time both of you were alone and she had this look of anticipation and yet when you leaned in you gave her the awkward jehovah’s witness hug instead of kissing her like she thought you will. Niceness has been equated to the lacking of balls. It is the veritable home of the dopemu/idiat who does things for ladies without expecting anything in return. Not that we all do things for ladies expecting things in return (did I confuse you here, yeah me too!)

So you’re being nice to a lady, you are listening to her talk about keeping up with the kardashians and how her friends annoy her, you are doing all the gentlemanly things and spending a busload of cash in the process. As much as you think there is a veritable give and take and some type of nice guy karma that comes from doing all that, the mere fact that you are being nice to get laid doesn’t make you nice at all. Actually, bishing about being a nice guy who doesn’t get tail makes you just a big male genital member (1 guess, the word starts with a p) and I say that with all prejudice. Staring at a girl while picturing all the things you want to do to her while naked does not count as game.

I actually wrote this because in the beginning of Sir Farouk, he was a shy introverted mofo with no game. I m still the same in some ways except when a drop of distilled water gets in my system then I m smooth, my coefficient of static and kinetic friction is zero, I got no drag. Anyway, what is my point? Stop being nice? Nah, if you are a genuinely nice person keep doing you, be a gentleman aint nothing wrong with that. I m a nice gentleman type but I m a recovering pushover and gaining my assertiveness. Mix your niceness with some assertiveness, style, wit and just be yourself and you will woo that lady you have been eyeing kapish.

That being said, some people do believe ladies like assholes. I also think especially in a country like Nigeria where people hustle for everything seeming nice might get you taken advantage of. So bobo shine your eye, shine you eye well well. What is your definition of a nice guy? Does he wash your undies? Does niceness come with a slice of no game? So do nice guys finish last?



16 thoughts on “Nice/Shy Guy = No Game? Do nice guys finish last?

    Single Nigerian Man said:
    August 22, 2013 at 8:31 pm

    LOL @ distilled water.
    By all means be a nice guy, but find that one babe that sees all your nasty.

    I am a very nice guy too *adjusts halo*
    Last Carriers Club lifetime member here.

      Sir Farouk responded:
      August 22, 2013 at 9:17 pm

      Lol @ see all my nasty, she better be nasty too. But carrying last is not good all the time o, you could fall into maga-ism!

    dingdongitsmrwrong said:
    August 23, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    This was a very interesting read. I am hearing this more and more from guys. I am writing a book called Mr Wrong, “a humorous and insightful exploration into why some women continually attract Mr Wrong.2 It contains a selection of stories written buy women and their experiences however I would love to hear from men for one of my chapters. What are your experiences and views. Why do you think women do not like nice guys? Are you interested in contributing? My email add is if so.

    All the best and keep up the writing


      Sir Farouk responded:
      August 27, 2013 at 4:24 pm

      Sounds like a very interesting read. I excel at procrastination so I said I was going to email you but havent gotten to it. I think women are attracted to confidence it so happens that a lot of nice guys lack confidence

        dingdongitsmrwrong said:
        August 27, 2013 at 11:22 pm

        No time for procrastination. I need to get this book finished 🙂 If you would like to hear more send me an email and if you are UK based could I ring you and we could discuss over the phone? I’ve had some fab contributions from men about Mr Nice guy and I would love yo hear you views. Hopefully hear from you soon.

    Timiebix said:
    August 24, 2013 at 9:33 pm

    THIS!!!! “Idiot, clearly she is not a telepath!”

    Maybe she like adventures, or it could be just plain stupid!
    We will never know 😛

      Sir Farouk responded:
      August 27, 2013 at 4:27 pm

      Lol if she likes adventures she can sign up to be the next lara croft or something and better stop coming to cry on the nice guy’s shoulder when the adventure goes wrong.

    Keji said:
    August 27, 2013 at 4:01 pm

    DISTILLED WATER? Buahahahaha! Nice in Nigeria translates to mugu. Be nice but have swag gaddamit! Tell a babe off once in a while…Hian! lol.

      Sir Farouk responded:
      September 6, 2013 at 2:13 pm

      Tell a babe off once in a while. Lol I like that

    Ethan Vanderbuilt said:
    August 27, 2013 at 5:53 pm

    What is it like being a nice guy when dating? I created a video that gives you an idea.

    worshipandswag said:
    August 31, 2013 at 3:35 am

    I can count how many times you said the word “idiot” in this post, lol! Whether you’re angry at the nice guys or just describing them I can’t tell. (Are you really a nice guy?) However, I think what most guys are missing that bad ones seem to have is SWAG. *Insert your winky winky song here* lol

    Swag is _______, Apparently, it works so well on ladies that the other qualities that make you a good catch seem irrelevant. It’s more than just confidence. So, in combination with your niceness, Sir Farouk, a little swag will get you the lady in you’re yearning for in the above cartoon. Lol 😀

      Sir Farouk responded:
      August 31, 2013 at 12:09 pm

      Lol I wont call it anger, more like “dude wake up and stop being silly” be yourself but dont be a pushover. You are right confidence and swag work wonders. I m not yearning for any lady o. Lol funny that you would emphasize swag madame worshipandswag

    sewbubble said:
    September 16, 2013 at 1:14 pm

    I typed something long and now its gone.

    The gist of it is, I want a nice and I to for nice guys,none of that swag nonesense.

    The problem which you rightly highlighted with ‘nice’ guys is that they don’t put that back into it.

    I’m currently talking to another nice guy, we met in 2011, saw him again at a wedding . He says like ‘why didn’t we get together then ?’

    I am thinking, what are you going to do about it now. I even made things easy by calling him as much as he calls me but guess what? I have already written him off, because he is just not showing enough desire to have me … and I have to have that lol.

    I find a lot of naija guys are not ‘nice’ , by that I mean they aren’t good people with good hearts who think about the feelings of the next person.

      Sir Farouk responded:
      September 25, 2013 at 10:37 pm

      You dont want swag? that quality that is everything and nothing at the same time? that quality that most of us cant pinpoint what it even means? Swag is a little overused and maybe overrated. Naija guys might not be nice but in their/our defence the dating climate doesn’t make it conducive to be a well rounded person, its either you are a holier than thou shush boy or you eat ashewo for breakfast type bad. We thrive in extremes it seems. That said, I m sure there is a nice and confident guy somewhere with your name on him

    naijawife said:
    September 16, 2013 at 5:01 pm

    think of it this way…nice guys finish last with the wrong girls. you’re more likely to score When you meet the right girl. one Nollywood movie I watched once said “the right person will like what the wrong one didn’t”

      Sir Farouk responded:
      September 25, 2013 at 10:31 pm

      That is profound in so many ways. I guess there is someone for everyone even the man with no balls

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